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You're not broken - your nervous system 

just got really good at surviving.

Three courses to help you regulate, rebuild secure attachment, 

and stop abandoning yourself when shit gets hard.

You're feeling...

Emotionally reactive when you want to stay calm - your body hijacks you before your brain can catch up

Like you're performing instead of being yourself - editing, adapting, shrinking to fit

Drawn to intensity because calm feels foreign or boring

Unsafe in your own body - hypervigilant, anxious, waiting for the other shoe to drop

Stuck in patterns you can see but can't break—you know better, so why do you keep doing this?

It's not a character flaw. It's not weakness. Your nervous system learned to survive. And now it doesn't know how to be safe.
Most of us didn't get the emotional education we needed growing up.
Our parents did their best. They fed us, pushed us toward success. But a relational home where you could process feelings and develop a secure sense of self? That well was dry. 

So we became adults who do a lot but feel disconnected from ourselves. 

Here's what that looks like now: 

You lose yourself in relationships, jobs, friendships—over-functioning to keep the peace. Chaos feels like home because your nervous system was wired for instability. Boundaries feel impossible. You confuse anxiety with intuition. And when things are stable? You create problems or wait for disaster. 

You're not just dealing with your own stuff. You're dealing with everyone's childhood. 

In relationships, you're not just with your partner—you're with both of your childhoods. Every unmet need. Every wound. Every survival strategy—it's all showing up. Same patterns. Different people. Same outcome. 

This isn't about what's wrong with you. It's about what was missing.

Here's what I know after 15+ years as a therapist:

Healing isn't cognitive. It's somatic and relational.

You can't think your way out of a nervous system conditioned for survival. You can't mindset your way into feeling safe. And you can't "just choose better" when your body is wired to recognize familiar wounding as home. 

I've worked with thousands of people who are smart, insightful, self-aware—and still stuck in the same loops. Not because they lack willpower. But because trauma lives in the body, not the brain. 

I didn't learn this in a graduate program. I learned it sitting in my car after therapy sessions, wondering why I still felt dysregulated even when life looked stable on paper. I learned it by fucking up my own relationships—by being the reactive one, the avoidant one, the guy who shut down when things got real. 

Trauma isn't what happened to you. It's what you didn't get. An unbearable emotional experience without a relational home to process it. 

And until you give your nervous system a new experience—actual safety, not just the idea of it—the patterns don't change. 

That's what this bundle does.

Three courses. One clear path: from self-abandonment to solid self. 


This isn't therapy. It's not a mindset program. It's not affirmations in the mirror. 

It's nervous system education + attachment repair + identity reconstruction. 

Raw emotional education your parents didn't get either. Practical nervous system tools you can use today. Attachment theory applied to real life, not academic concepts. Identity work that brings you home to yourself. 

Not clinical therapy language. Not toxic positivity. Not temporary relief. 

Actual tools that rewire how you show up.

Break Your Trauma Bond

Why you keep choosing the same person in different bodies. Why chaos feels like chemistry. Why you can know something is bad for you and still crave it like oxygen.

What you'll learn:

What trauma actually is—not just the big obvious stuff, but the accumulation of moments when you felt unsafe, unseen, or unloved

Trauma bonds—that electric connection you feel with someone unavailable is your nervous system recognizing familiar pain

How to actually heal from trauma (not just understand it)

How trauma shows up in your relationships through codependency, avoidance, control, or people-pleasing

Tiny Little Joys—small moments that recondition your nervous system to recognize safety and pleasure

The Tree of Life exercise—mapping your story so you can integrate your past without being controlled by it

You'll walk away understanding: Your attraction isn't broken. It's just been pointing you toward what's familiar, not what's healthy. And you can retrain that.

Redesign Your Life

You can learn all the communication tools in the world, but if you're still living in your pseudo self—the version of you that adapts, performs, edits—nothing sticks.

What you'll learn:

How I came up with this concept—the backstory that sets the foundation

Pseudo Self vs Solid Self—why most of us are walking around pretending to be someone we're not

How to dissolve your false beliefs (I'm not good enough, I'm not lovable)—lies you absorbed that don't serve you anymore

Return what's not yours to own—the shame, guilt, and stories that were never yours

Define your non-negotiables—boundaries, values, deal-breakers without apologizing for having them

Unlock your code—what makes you you, not your job title or relationship status

Shift from chasing to attracting—when you live from your solid self, you stop performing and start drawing in what's aligned

You'll walk away being: Someone who can be in relationships without losing themselves. Who can walk away when something doesn't fit without internalizing it as failure.

It's Not Me, It's You

How do you communicate needs without feeling like you're too much? How do you stay regulated when someone else is dysregulated? How do you handle conflict without it becoming a full reenactment?

What you'll learn:

The 12 Principles—the foundational framework for healthy relationships (not rules, but structure for showing up authentically)

How to Fight Without Fighting—communication tools that create safety instead of defensiveness

Your relationship patterns—you're not just dating your partner, you're dating their childhood wounds and your own

Laying New Tracks—consciously creating new patterns because you can't keep running on old rails and expect a different destination

Loving Without Your Post—releasing past betrayals and scorecards so you can love in the present

Masculine/Feminine Dynamics—not about gender, but about energy and creating balance instead of power struggles

You'll walk away with: Tools to stay grounded when emotions run high. The ability to see conflict as information, not evidence that you're unlovable.

Here's What Actually Changes When You Do This Work:

You stop taking everything personally—you realize that when someone is dysregulated, it's their nervous system running an old program, not about you. 

You learn to stay grounded when they're not. You stop matching their energy, stop getting pulled into the chaos, stop abandoning yourself to keep the peace. 

You communicate needs without apologizing for having them. You stop over-explaining, stop performing, stop shrinking. 

You see triggers as information, not evidence that you're fundamentally flawed. You get curious instead of defensive. 

Life stops feeling like an emergency. And you stop treating yourself like a problem to solve.
Get all three courses: $59
Individual courses available for $47 each

Break Your Trauma Bond (6 modules)

Redesign Your Life (8 modules)

It's Not Me, It's You (6 modules)

Lifetime access—learn at your pace, revisit whenever

Video content + practical tools you can use immediately

Self-paced: binge it or spread it out

Look, I could have priced this at $200, $300, even more—and it would still be worth it for what's inside. But I didn't build this to gatekeep transformation. I built it so the people who actually need it can access it. 

Is this worth more than $59? 

If it helps you stop repeating the same painful pattern even once—if it saves you from another year of losing yourself, another relationship where you abandon your needs, another cycle of choosing chaos over calm—yeah. It's worth a lot more than $59 

But that's not why you're here. You're here because something has to change. And this is where it starts.
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    This is for you...

    This is for you if you're tired of the same patterns showing up in different packaging. If you want to stop performing and start belonging—to yourself first. If you're ready to feel safe in your body, not just think your way to better choices. 

    If you're high-functioning but dysregulated. You look fine but you don't feel fine. 

    If you want tools that actually work, not platitudes that sound nice. 

    This isn't for you if you're looking for a quick fix. If you want someone to tell you exactly what to do without doing your own work. If you're not willing to sit with discomfort as your nervous system recalibrates.

    Frequently Asked Questions

    • Is this just for romantic relationships?
      No. This work applies to every relationship in your life—romantic, family, work, friendships. It's about how you show up, regulate, and relate.
    • What if I've already done a ton of therapy?
      Good. This builds on that. Most therapy focuses on insight and awareness. This focuses on nervous system regulation and somatic practice. They complement each other.
    • What if I don't have
      If you're asking this question, you probably minimize your experience. Trauma isn't always abuse. Sometimes it's just absence. And if you're reading this page, something resonates. Trust that.

    Your body remembered the storm 

    and forgot the sun.

    This is where we bring the sun back. 

    Not through positive thinking or forcing yourself to "just choose better." But through nervous system recalibration. Attachment repair. Identity work that doesn't ask you to become someone new—it asks you to come home to who you've always been underneath the armor. 

    Chaos isn't love. Peace isn't boring. And you don't have to keep proving you're worthy of care. 

    This is the work. The real work. Not the Instagram-worthy version. The messy, somatic, relational kind that actually changes things.

    Three courses. 20 modules. Lifetime access. $59